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October 2008 
What is your favorite distraction?
Posted on Aug 22nd, 2008
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Diana
Diana
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for August 22, 2008:
There is a little MSN game called "Peggle" that I like to play. Funny thing is that I used to be someone who thought I would not waste my time on playing games on line. But that has changed. I found that playing a game was something that made me enter a kind of 'relaxed way' of being like I had the joy of saying to myself and demonstrating to myself that I did not have to always be getting something done that needed doing. Things always need doing. But by playing the game I could reward myself in a sense and be able to say, "I even have enough time to play this game which is not getting anything done that I need to do at all. It is almost like I can play it and say to that part of me that wants me to think that only constructive things should be done, "Hey no, don't be such a hard task master. I will enjoy this game and I will get to the 'stuff' done later.
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Absolutely wonderful….. 'stuff' always exists to be done… i now enjoy doing 'stuff' when i'm called to it.. otherwise it can wait until i'm ready & in the mood…. i've even learned that sometimes if the stuff sits there long enough… the necessity leaves & it has cured itself without any effort on my part at all. Variety of 'stuff' and its needs is of course a factor - but so nice to accept the 'me' time of nothingness ;)
to peace & happiness,
Lisa
Eckhart Tolle speaks much about our spending time just being in the NOW, not thinking of what is the next thing to be doing. I love that man so much for his teachings that he shares so generously with us. You can find him on You Tube talking about so much that really enlightens people.
That's clever what you say about if the stuff sits there long enough, it cures itself. HA I have some stuff like that.
Eckhart is way cool :) I always had a problem getting through his power of now book, perhaps i should open it again….. but i thoroughly enjoyed the new earth book.. and the oprah sessions and watching how people responded to what they were learning. There are also many wonderful teachers of NOWness.. being happy with who you are & how you are - and i celebrate them all. I appreciate your posting & sharing of these thoughts :)
Its funny, i learned alot of this 'stuff' ness from watching my mother muddle around incessantly cleaning … anal in her desire & need in keeping an ordered house … when i grew up she'd come over to visit & point out to me all the areas of dust i had missed. internally i would chuckle.. wondering why this was so gosh darn important … I felt it sad really that this was what she focused on in her life… i vowed in my childhood to let the stuff sit until i felt like it.
Later … raising children i learned this much more deeply… my first 2 children i would 'feel' the need to deal with 'their' moment, dole out a punishment… fulfill a role i was supposed to fulfill… my responsibility in needing to act or react to the moment…. the anger in me i learned was because i had turmoil in doing what i thought was expected of my role.. “i had to act”… and so they received anger from me in those moments because it wasn't how i really felt… great inner turmoil. They experienced rage… later i learned with my 3rd child…. to relax….. if something really needed to be attended to with her, i gave it a couple days to let it sit with me…. most of the time i found out… it worked itself out. my NOT acting… is what helped create her own lessons. i still doled out punishments/ consequences when they were needed, but i took my time, i set it aside in my mind, and in a couple days a solution seemed to present itself with clarity & calmness. Also, i found that sometimes just letting her sit with the fact that a consequence might be doled out, was really consequence enough.. and she had time to let something sit with her as well. we were also then able to actually communicate about the issue, because emotions etc were no longer in the picture.. it was purely two people talking about what had led up to the issue.
I do this alot with little catastrophes, unless the NEED is really imminent.. i find it so much more beneficial when i can come at a problem not in the emotion of the moment, but from a place of clarity & calm :) Probably more than you wanted to know… but perhaps this thought will ring true for another who may stumble upon this also :)
Much love,
Lisa
Thank you Lisa for your words. You are quite right and I could learn from you this because I often times get angry inside and feel resentment at having to pick up after everyone in this household. I am the live in granny so to speak but I sometimes feel that everyone just leaves their stuff out and does not put it away because sooner or later I will put it away for them….so to deal with the resentment I just sometimes retire to my room and play Peggle on my computer. HA